Welcome to the dumping ground for all my random thoughts and strokes of genius. Tread carefully.
P.S. The title comes from a Dorothy Parker quote. "This is not a novel to be tossed lightly aside. It should be thrown with great force."
Replace "novel" with just about anything else and you've got yourself some damn good words to live by.
It’s a bad idea for my friends to set me up on dates. I don’t mind using friends as a way to meet guys, but since I’m not really looking to date, being set up on dates is weird. And when I get weirded it out, it’s game over. For example: A couple of my friends know this guy who’s apparently adorable and they wanted to introduce us. Totally cool with me. But saying “Hey, we’re going to create a situation in which you two will meet and can chat and see if sparks fly” is completely different than telling the other person - whom I’ve never met - that I’m interested so that said person decides to send me Facebook messages asking a bunch of get-to-know-you questions. It’s weird, and it’s happened more than once, and it just makes me stabby. Stabby does not lead to dates. The end.
Also, if it wasn’t originally my idea, it’s not going to work out. Fact.
I think it will be more enjoyable to date younger guys when I reach cougar status than it is now, when I’m just slightly older. I have a number of older (cougar) friends (Slogan: Twenty-two year old men love forty year old women!) who routinely hang out with and/or hook up with dudes my age (mid-20s) and younger. I feel weird hanging out with guys and then learning they just finished college - my baby sister’s in college! Too young - even though they’re way, way closer to my age than some of my friends’ ages. Perhaps someday I’ll do the whole getting married and growing old with someone thing, in which case I’d like it to last and will therefore skip the cougar phase, but for right now, I’m feeling like boys 23 and younger are off-limits, at least for the next 20 or so years of my life.
