Never skimp on good liquor, good makeup, a good umbrella and a good pair of shoes.
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March 2010
“But my 20s… man… my 20s have been the wildest roller coaster ride I could ever imagine. And let me tell you. Nobody tells you how to be 22, 25, 28. Nobody tells you what you are supposed to do after you go to college, get that degree, sow your wild oats. Nobody tells you how to decide between a pair of cute shoes or that week’s groceries. Nobody tells you how to mend a broken heart, comfort a friend in need, and make the really tough decisions. Nobody tells you what it’s going to feel like to sit down one day, look in the mirror and say “I thought I’d have it all figured out by now.”
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..:apple of my eye:..: reflection on my 20s, while I’m still in that decade
This. All of this. Click through for the whole post, it’s worth it.
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This is why I love Jordan Reid...
“The point isn’t perfection, or even aspiration to some far-off ideal. The point is to shut out the noise for long enough to discover what makes you feel great, and to then to be true to that. It’s just as important to know what you don’t like, what you don’t care about. I could care less about wedding cakes, so we had whoopie pies at our wedding. I like fake flowers, and so I buy them constantly. I also like Britney Spears. And freaking garlic salt; I would bathe in the stuff if I could. If you like something that’s “uncool”…so what? You like it. That’s what matters.
When we were in Aspen, the NonSociety girls talked a lot about this book that they were reading, Marry Him, which basically instructs readers to settle down with the guy that they’re dating if he’s “good enough”…because if they keep waiting for some guy to come along who checks every box on a miles-long checklist, they’ll be waiting forever. I think that’s absolute bullshit for about a million reasons, but mostly because the checklist that women carry around in their heads delineating the exact qualities that their future husband must possess is more often than not a construct based on others’ opinions. The noise that surrounds us on a daily basis (oh, he’s poor, can’t marry him, oh, he’s not cute enough, oh, he didn’t go to an Ivy League, oh, he doesn’t read enough/listen to music enough/go to museums enough) can skew our ability to see what might really matter.
When I met Kendrick, he was a touring musician who on occasion moonlighted as a coconut-water salesman between gigs. You think that checks off a whole lot of boxes on my friends’ “The Boy I’m Gonna Marry” lists? Prooooobably not. But if you limit your ideas about love, you limit your life – trust me on that one.”
“Marital happiness is far more important than anything else in determining personal well-being. If you have a successful marriage, it doesn’t matter how many professional setbacks you endure, you will be reasonably happy. If you have an unsuccessful marriage, it doesn’t matter how many career triumphs you record, you will remain significantly unfulfilled.”
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Op-Ed Columnist David Brooks - The Sandra Bullock Trade - NYTimes.com
I don’t necessarily agree. Ok, so he goes on to day “This is the age of research, so there’s data to back this up” but none of the stats explicitly show that being marital happiness is more important to overall happiness than anything else. I think marital happiness can counteract professional unhappiness, but if you’re miserable in that aspect of your life, it’s going to affect your marriage. And if it’s a choice between professional success (or anything really) and being in a less-than-stellar relationship, you’re damn right I’d rather just go it alone.
Being contentedly coupled up doesn’t equal happiness for everyone.
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“It’s not really the people you let into your vagina that can hurt you. It’s the people you let into your heart.”
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Gossip Girl Recap: Two Legs Close, And A Heart Opens — Vulture
True story, bitches.
“He liked the idea of being a guy who would be with someone like me, but ultimately it turned out that he wanted someone who wouldn’t challenge him as much, a person who was easier and quicker to sweep away.”
—Your girl is lovely, Hubbell. (via katoleary)
“if john travolta and the woman he played in hairspray had a baby together, it would be kesha. (i am not honoring her with the effort of a dollar sign.)”
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see also: CANNOT BE UNSEEN
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Op-Ed Columnist - An Absence of Class in the G.O.P. - NYTimes.com →
nytimes.com
Bob Herbert just nailed down almost everything that scares me about our society.
My Coworkers are the Best
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Happy St. Patrick’s Day!
“Because girls frankly expect this behavior from guys. We are told, continually and throughout our lives and in every major media outlet and dating guide, that Guys Are Just Like That. Or the vast majority of them, anyway. Guys want physical contact, girls want emotional contact, we’re told; therefore, if we make physical contact with a guy, we should not expect emotional contact to follow. Granted, to hope is not to expect, and the entire courting structure is basically designed to allow us to perform a semi-realistic risk analysis, but girls are still basically informed that this entire deal, this sex and/or dating deal, is a game of poker and you shouldn’t play unless you can afford to lose something, and you should be cautious with your bets.”
—Tiger Beatdown (via gauntlet)
“There’s two kinds of guys. The ones who hold your hand and the ones that f**k you.”
—Sex and the City (via junglejustine)
“The Universe is desperate for you to follow your dreams. You will be surrounded by all the support you need if you choose to see life that way. So many live their life in fear. It’s such a rare moment when one of us wakes up and decides to plunge into the abyss of the unknown that the Universe will rejoice and provide everything you need for a successful journey. There will be obstacles, so it’s your job to decide how to react to each challenge. I promise you if you keep pressing on you will be presently surprised to find out what lies just on the other side of every perceived “failure.”
—Mastin Kipp (via oceanofmind) (via quote-book) (via diaaididaiad) (via thoughtsonasunday)
I blame the horrors of social justice
In Britain, only 8 percent of the population is Catholic (compared with 25 percent in the United States). Abortion there is legal. Abortion is free. And yet British women have fewer abortions than Americans do. I asked Cardinal Hume why that is.
The cardinal said that there were several reasons but that one important explanation was Britain’s universal health-care system. “If that frightened, unemployed 19-year-old knows that she and her child will have access to medical care whenever it’s needed,” Hume explained, “she’s more likely to carry the baby to term. Isn’t it obvious?”
A young woman I knew in Britain added another explanation. “If you’re [sexually] active,” she said, “the way to avoid abortion is to avoid pregnancy. Most of us do that with an IUD or a diaphragm. It means going to the doctor. But that’s easy here, because anybody can go to the doctor free.”
“I am grateful that somehow we are made, in the most trying of times, to just block out everything and keep going, even when you have no idea what to do or how it will all work out.”
—Sarah Dessen (via julie911) (via quote-book) (via applegamble) (via onherway) (via gottfried) (via onherway)
“You can’t talk about passion. You have to taste it.”
—label on my wine bottle (Carmen Carmenere - there should be little accents there - from Chile, in case you’re wondering. p.s. it’s yum)
“Some love stories are short stories, but they’re still love stories”
—Greek
Believing in yourself is not about your career, the car you drive, the house you live in, the relationship you’re in, etc. Those factors may change multiple times over the course of our lives. Believing in yourself is about purpose – finding purpose in the smallest details. The smallest detail that I can think of sometimes is the fact that I exist, side by side with a ginger ant, in the same moment.
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“Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart.”
—Kay Knudsen (via heremotionsickness) (via sab-rina) (via kari-shma)
I want to be the Queen Bitch Diva! That is all.
“Oh, that’s why I keep having kids, Jimmy, to replace the ones who hate me”
—Lynette on Desperate Housewives
I Promise, I'm NOT Drunk
- Me: Hello?
- Caller: [laughing about something else in the background]
- Me: Hello?
- Caller: [still not listening...]
- Me: Hello?
- Caller: Hey!
- Me: [giggling] Hey what's up?
- Caller: Are you drunk?
- Me: [putting 1st glass of wine down] ...No.
- Caller: Yes you are!
- Me: No I'm not!
- Caller: You sound drunk
“I couldn’t’ve thrown up 19 times in 48 days if I wasn’t in love with you”
—Along Came Polly
“Marriage is like a tense, unfunny version of Everybody Loves Raymond”
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Paul Rudd in Knocked Up
This is the concept of marriage that freaks me out & makes anti-marriage. Especially since I don’t even really think Everybody Loves Raymond is funny. And it’s not a completely off-base perception. I’ve seen relationships - and been in relationships - where you look at it and think “Why the hell are they even together??”
But it doesn’t have to be like that.
If I ever get married - hell, if I ever commit to any relationship at all - it’s only going to work for me if it’s completely a unconventional, ridiculous, partners-in-crime adventure. Because I already know how easy it would be for me to settle into a routine, unexciting partnership that would look like something off a bad sitcom and inevitably lead to me waking up one morning when my kids are almost grown up and my hair’s almost gray, miserable and wondering what the hell happened to my life and where I went off-track.
Pretty sure I strayed from my original point on that one.
“To be nobody but
yourself in a world
which is doing its best day and night to make you like
everybody else means to fight the hardest battle
which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.” —e.e. cummings (via kari-shma)
yourself in a world
which is doing its best day and night to make you like
everybody else means to fight the hardest battle
which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.” —e.e. cummings (via kari-shma)
“It is a disgrace that the United States is the only developed country in the world that does not provide universal health care coverage, even though we currently spend 17 percent of our gross national product for health care. That is up to twice what other developed countries spend on health care, and they cover all of their citizens.”
—Universal health care would cost U.S. less (via azspot) (via peterwknox)
